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<blockquote data-quote="Hacker News" data-source="post: 72235" data-attributes="member: 365">I'm in a situation where my boss really doesn't get me or understand what I specifically bring to the table. She simply needs something different. I've tried to fit myself into what she needs like a square peg in a round hole. I have a very different vision for my role, and a specific understanding of how my strengths contribute to our team.After months of trying, I'm finally realizing trying to force myself into something that's simply not going to fit.Cool story bro, why are you telling me?Well I just want to say, the industry has an obsession with &quot;growth&quot; in performance reviews. But the reality is that growth only works when you build on someone's strengths. Trying to ask someone to grow by changing who they fundamentally are, leads to withdrawal, stagnation, and anti-growth. I'm actually getting worse at my job, not better, because I'm being forced to be something I'm not. It's depressing, draining, and frustrating. I can't be who I fundamentally am in my role.It's important to know when your strengths are fundamentally misaligned with your job, boss, etc and leave ASAP. Don't try to force yourself to fit into it for the sake of &quot;growth&quot;. You'll only drain yourself and there are better places for you. You may end up going through a traumatic experience that actually causes you to LOSE skills and abilities.That is all, thanks.<hr />Comments URL: <a href="https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=33246841" target="_blank">https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=33246841</a>Points: 10# Comments: 0<a href="https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=33246841" target="_blank">Continue reading...</a></blockquote>

[QUOTE="Hacker News, post: 72235, member: 365"] I'm in a situation where my boss really doesn't get me or understand what I specifically bring to the table. She simply needs something different. I've tried to fit myself into what she needs like a square peg in a round hole. I have a very different vision for my role, and a specific understanding of how my strengths contribute to our team. After months of trying, I'm finally realizing trying to force myself into something that's simply not going to fit. Cool story bro, why are you telling me? Well I just want to say, the industry has an obsession with "growth" in performance reviews. But the reality is that growth only works when you build on someone's strengths. Trying to ask someone to grow by changing who they fundamentally are, leads to withdrawal, stagnation, and anti-growth. I'm actually getting worse at my job, not better, because I'm being forced to be something I'm not. It's depressing, draining, and frustrating. I can't be who I fundamentally am in my role. It's important to know when your strengths are fundamentally misaligned with your job, boss, etc and leave ASAP. Don't try to force yourself to fit into it for the sake of "growth". You'll only drain yourself and there are better places for you. You may end up going through a traumatic experience that actually causes you to LOSE skills and abilities. That is all, thanks. [HR][/HR] Comments URL: [URL]https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=33246841[/URL] Points: 10 # Comments: 0 [url="https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=33246841"]Continue reading...[/url] [/QUOTE]

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